When it comes to the issue of in-laws in Nigeria it's what everyone can relate to in one way or the other positively or negatively. Some have good tales about their in-laws while some have not so good tales. Mother-in-laws are the major bone of contention in most marriages in Naija, they are the ones that fight their daughter-in-laws over their sons, they complain almost over and about everything she does and it's absolutely a taboo for the daughter-in-law to defend herself even in the littlest way.
Father-in-laws are usually calmer when it comes to their kid's marriage affairs, they keep themselves at bay from the activities in the homes of their kids. Though in quite a few number of cases they rely heavily on their sons and daughters for financial help. Naturally, the daughters are more softened up towards their fathers and in a bid to be the good son in-law most husbands tend to strife to better the life of his parent-in-laws.
Sister-in-laws ain't left out in in the design intended to make marriage hell for some women, they are many sweet sister-in-laws who can be so adorable while many as well are as mean as hell. My colleague once complained bitterly about her sister-in-law who wouldn't let her be, she had the perfect manual in her head on how to run her brother's home while the said sister-in-law was not even hitched, what an irony.
The situation depressed my colleague deeply and to make matters worse her husband did nothing about it. I made her understand, fighting back wouldn't solve a thing and rather suggested she ignores her as much as she can but also show her love. Eventually they became best buddies.
Monster-in-law(mother-in-law) as my church member would call it...lol. she always begins her sentences with "my sister". My sister, my monster-in-law wants to kill me she'd lament, why? I'd ask. Everything she does is either a taboo in the land or she complains she isn't brought up well by her parents. Why did she use beef and not chicken in the stew? Who do her kids take cereals and not pap with soya milk and crayfish in it? Her husband who is thorn in between his mother and wife never gets to resolve their squabble. She has fasted and prayed over her mother-in-law but the situation gets worse.
As for brother-in-laws, I don't have much to say as i've not heard much complaints about them from close associates, I personal have got really caring brother-in-laws and so much respectful as well.
What is your own experience with any of your in-laws? Please share with us.
I don't have any issues in that department. But my mum had a monster in law for a MIL I witnessed some of her bitchy attitude towards my mum. My father didn't make it any easier either. It was the Grace of God she survived it. But my MIL, she's so wonderful, ever helpful, sacrificing reliable and dependable; same as my mum.
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DeleteNo stories to tell - its been smooth sailing all the way.....
ReplyDeleteThat's good...you are a lucky one.
DeleteMy inlaws are perfect, from mother to siblings. They accepted me in totality I couldn't have asked for better.
ReplyDeleteAwww.... thank God for you.
DeleteI think when you become a mother, you realise that there should be no competition between you and your mother-in law as you wouldn't want to be a monster in law to your future daughter in law. If you are the daughter in law who wants your MIL to severe ties with her son, remember that you will eventually be a MIL one day and whatever goes around comes around.... So i hope that puts things in perspective and we can all having a loving relationship with our inlaws
ReplyDeleteThat's true... the change begins with us.
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