Chidinma is a graduate from one of the universities in the UK, from a well to do family and pretty intelligent. Chidinma fell in love with a yoruba dude while studying in Manchester and they both agreed to get married right after their service year but to her utmost surprise her father kicked against the marriage and it never saw the light of the day, what were his reasons for not accepting the young yoruba guy to marry his igbo daughter?
He simply said over his dead body will he see his daughter marry a yoruba guy giving a history of betrayal between the two nations dating way back. She had to let go as she virtually got no support from her immediate family.
She was made to understand since she is the Ada(first daughter) she must marry from her state but nowhere else.
Naija mom, where I go see better Anambra man for this we Lagos? Asked Chidinma. The ones one would find is either an apapa wharf tout, a motor spare parts dealer at ladipo, the one counting and selling stock fish at mile 12 or a trader at idumota.
Haba! They must be other 'refined' igbo men working in good and reputable establishments in Lagos nau, I chipped in trying to encourage her.
Naija mom, the ones you believe that are refined are most arrogant and she concluded by saying you really can't find a refined igbo man he must have some stint of where he is from in him.
'' I seriously can't deal with a man who can't make a complete sentence without adding a bit of igbo in it", said Chidinma.
I asked, how?
They begin with, Nne ke ki me?(my sister how are you?)
You answer appropriately with, "I'm fine".
They pick offence saying, leave godi that thing and ask again, Ibu onye igbo? (are you igbo?)
Must I show my heritage every time? Biko apum aka! (please leave me)
They also believe when they take you out to "madam dishe's" joint they have done you a big favour, I mean those joint usually run by expired and over bleached igbo women. Naija mom what happened to chinese and Italian restaurants for a date?
My dates are usually the loudest at this local pubs and they readily have their orders available. They call me babym at every slightest given opportunity and have you noticed Naija mom they all call their smart device hand sets or gsm?
Seriously, Naija mom I can't deal with such local vibes for life.
This point I couldn't help but just laugh at her predicament.
This isn't a fictional story, I actually had this convo with my friend yesterday. Seriously, who has experienced this type of date and what's the real beef between these two nations?