Friday, 22 January 2016

Dealing with that bully....



I have a bit of mixed feelings on this her decision or i'd rather say training. In the world of today many kids are sick and such little altercations leading to a fist fight might lead to something more grievous.

I always advice mine to walk away first and report to the nearest adult but never hit back. This works in stages i think, when they grow up and are good with words i'll teach them to speak for themselves but fighting is never a way out or a way forward.

I could totally be wrong with my thoughts on this, share your thoughts with us on this please. 

28 comments:

  1. I teach my son to fight other boys back, infact if they throw one punch, he shld throw 2 punches and a kickback.. Lol.. But if it's a girl that bullies him, he shld nvr hit bk, but instead report to an adult, if the adult does nothing, then by all means give the girl some slaps to correct her head.. So that's what I teach my son.. Becos I believe in fighting bk until I draw blood. Lol

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  2. I ve a bully for an elder sister and I know d looks on d kids faces she has bullied in d past. She not only beats them but cease their bags n school shoes, and I was d main person that made her stopped, Co's I reported her to my parents,and my parents used everything including beating and preaching, scolding of all sort to stop her. I am of the hitback school of thought. I always tell my kids to hitback but don't be the first to hit.

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  3. Well with happenings around these days, fighting back may not be advisable but in the case of little children, biko if he no beat him own back, na correct cane he go chop when he reach house

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    1. Hahahahaha...everything should be done in moderation.

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  4. I tell my kids to hit back but they shouldn't b d ist to pull punches....from bistyles (classy mamas)

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    1. Hmmmm...I guess I need to adopt this school of thought.

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  5. I tell my kids to hit back oh.But my hubby doesn't agree with me .Although I was never bullied but I hate bully's.It boils down to parenting if u ask me.You see the traits that your child is a bully and u do nothing about it.He or she bully's his younger ones and u stay there laughing.That is rather absurd.Pls let's try and teach our kids morals.I stand up for my daughter all the time when my son tries to opress or intimidate her for her own stuff.I regretted once because one day she became so offended and left bruises at my sons back.It wasn't funny at all so I have gone back to my hubby's opinion that reportage is the best approach.

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  6. Seriously whenever my son complained to me that one of his play mate hit him, I always encourage him to hit back. I prefer him hitting back than being a cry baby who always complain. But I believe that as children grow older, we should teach them to avoid Fights by all means and report to the nearest adult, just as you said naija mom.



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  7. I dont know how I will handle it yet. My little one is barely 2 , and shes a fiesty one. I already know I wont have a problem with anyone bullying her. But when shes older....i'll teach her to stand up for herself. Anyone talks u down, you better have some choice words for them...anyone lays a hand on u esp your mate, u slap them right back. But never be the first to hit anyone. Your words are enough. Thats what i'll teach her. I dont know tho'.....till then.

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  8. My son is 6 and a very quiet person which led to him being bullied at schl. I thought him how to fight back but regretted it cos he left scratches on d boys face and I was summoned at once. So untold him to play with the less violent friends n keep away from trouble shooters and report to any adult if he can't handle them himself.

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  9. I have a 7yr old that stammer s and is big for his age he looks 12 now ...he s not allowed to hit solely because of temper control....once I know he can control himself and not react to taunts and insults...asking kids not to hit is not d ain point ...making then control their emotions is key

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  10. it really depends on the situation and who is involved. the first key is teaching them when to retaliate and when not to.. the standard is teaching them to be a better kid. if they are taught to always retaliate @ the first instant note that they will also bring it home to their siblings and the lesson might stick for life. wisdom is profitable to direct.








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  11. Welcome back naija mama.
    Every bully should be flogged.
    Hit me, I land you correct one. I will double it sef. I am old enough to do that, but for a kid, I don't like the idea. A child being bullied should report to his/her teacher and parents.

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  12. Abeg they should be taught from childhood to defend themselves. Hit them back works for me. A bullied child also have an inferiority issue to deal with that could lead to depression if not well handled.

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  13. I agree with everyone's opinion. Let's learn to teach our children not to be a bully. And if hit first, give the bully a thunderous slap

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  14. My daughter has a bully called ebuka in her class, the last time she complained about him I told her to hit back when next he hits her. Ever since then she hasn't complained ebuka did this or ebuka did that.

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  15. I was the bully while growing up and fortunately, I never met my match. Children should be encouraged to defend themselves jor

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  16. hi, nice post. enjoyin d comments. bt ehn, wen i have a child i comment. lolz. so for now let me learn

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  17. Where on earth are you Naija mum? It's been a while ooo

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  18. To be honest, this is something I've wondered about often, esp. living in the UK where your child would be/could be a sole target of bullies just because.
    I'll teach my son to hit back twice as hard only when hit.
    It is a dicey one.
    I'll keep praying about that until I get to the bridge.....
    It is well.

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  19. To be honest, this is something I've wondered about often, esp. living in the UK where your child would be/could be a sole target of bullies just because.
    I'll teach my son to hit back twice as hard only when hit.
    It is a dicey one.
    I'll keep praying about that until I get to the bridge.....
    It is well.

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