Thursday, 10 September 2015

Baby mama trend:By force or not by force?



Babes are not smiling anymore O! The rate at which single girls are hustling to have babies, has doubled over the past few years… My observation, forgive me!

You see, I sort of like this new ‘development’! I can’t really stand girls who aren’t realistic. You can’t keep waiting till your ovaries freeze, all in the name of waiting for ‘Prince Charming’ to come sweep you off your feet! Like seriously?!…in Nigeria? A Prince Charming?!

Forgive me, but I’m not trying to encourage premarital sex (for the sake of those who are 40 year old virgins) or having babies out of wedlock. I’m just saying that if you really desire a family but you see that relationships have not been working out for you, then it’s time to consider other options before one enters menopause knowingly or unknowingly.‎
‎But if we have to look at the flip side, a girl may decide that her purpose on earth far outweighs the possibility of ever having a family, meaning that she has decided to allow God’s will in her life…Hmmm, commendable.
What I find absolutely fascinating about this whole ‘baby mama’ drama, is the fact that, being one used to be by force, but now, it is fast becoming more by choice. A lot of reasons are behind this important decision:
1. The fear of menopause, is the beginning of wisdom.
2. The need to have someone to care for them in their old age.
3. For companionship.
4. A need for a heir to their accumulated wealth.
5. The mentality of “Men will come and go, but your child will never abandon you”.
So, my dears, if you are in such a predicament as to whether to become a baby mama by choice or by force, it’s still your ‘exam question’ to answer. After all, at the end of the day, you are still the one wearing the shoe and you alone know where it hurts you the most!‎


Credit: Naija house wife.

15 comments:

  1. Baby Mama is not by force jo! I'm still old school - marriage before babies.

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  2. I don't just understand what they enjoy in it or is there pride there? I don't get

    If it's a mistake thatz understandable but intentional baby mama without marriage i'll pass


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    1. Mistake can even be remedied before the baby arrives...

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  3. Babymamas and single mothers who decided to have kids(which most times could be from the sperm bank) because they are getting old ain't in the same shoes tho.

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    1. Very true...since age ain't on their side it's good to have a child if it's important to you.

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  4. lolz... this post got me laughing esp the freezing ovaries part...life is all choice mehn




    A WOMAN ON HER PERIOD RAN MARATHON TO PROTEST PERIOD SHAMING

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  5. Every woman has their own choices. I believe marriage after having children but when Mr right has not approached and you are close to 40,na to find serious solution.
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  6. Sometimes it's even advisable to have kids sef before the wedding, just to be sure.
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    1. Nah, I don't agree.
      I'm very fertile (don't ask me how I know) and the boyfi too is very very fertile.

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    2. Bmf I understand the angle you coming from, one never might know it all.

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  7. Marriage before kids joor. Let the baby mama hustling stop already.

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