Sunday, 6 December 2015

The agony of infertility.


This is quite a very touchy topic,
I have contemplated on posting this since I begun this blog, I really can't avoid it sincerely. I apologise before starting if this isn't going to be digested well by anyone.

Please note this is my diary meaning, it's my thoughts I pen down but where I deem fit to get more opinions I refer to google with accurate credit, copy verbatim and a back link.
Here we go, I have very close friends right from my school days or even childhood friends that are married but no kids. Some are running into 5years in marriage and not even a failed pregnancy for once.
Why the high rise of so called devil's way of making people unhappy by terming it infertility?

Infertility from my google search could be as a result of several factors such as;
1. Hormonal causes.
2 . Cervical causes.
3. Uterine causes.
4. Damage to fallopian tubes.
5. Unknown medical explanations or unexplained fertility.

Now, for better understanding you could refer to this page for better understanding of the causes of infertility. Where I'm more concerned about is the last one as my close friends fall under such category.

I summoned courage one day and asked my own very chief bridesmaid at my wedding what is wrong as it's almost 5years and no baby? it's a very touchy issue and I didn't want to sound like I was adding to the already mounted pressure from the line of her inlaws.

She burst into cries saying the Ob/gyn told her all was well with her and encouraged her to keep her fertile period active. I was tongue  tied as to what advice to give her since I hadn't experienced such, mine is rather the other way round.

My old school mate confided in me saying it was as a result of infections which had been long treated but still no pregnancy, worst of all after saving for years, IVF failed them. I wept for her!

In my service year I met a sweet petite yoruba lady at camp and we were in the same community development group (sports precisely) , she is in the same predicament as the earlier 2 mentioned.

When I pray and begin to mention those believing for the fruit of the womb, it breaks my heart the list gets longer by the day.

Some are suffering from secondary infertility, while sincerely some women are medically ok but the men have issues with fertility. They keep it under wraps and allow the women to wallow in depression. Please to the men there is no shame in trying to get things done at the right time if you are at fault.

Here are few tips to get pregnant if no other medical hindrance;

1. Eat right: a very healthy diet with the right amount of essential vitamins and minerals help in boosting fertility in both sexes. Lots of fruits with high alkaline eg water melon, cucumber etc. Stop consumption of alcohol, cigarette, caffeine, limit red meat intake and exposure to insecticides.

2. Exercise: pregnancy deals with a healthy body mass index. It's good to exercise regularly.

3. Know your circle; I'll suggest you refer to google or medical practitioner to know your accurate fertile/ ovulation period. Usually the first sign is an egg white cervical mucus discharge from your vagina. Have sex regularly through out this period and don't rush to go wash up after sex, if possible sleep off with it and clean up the following morning or after some hours.

4. Supplements : folic acid, omega 3 fatty acids, zinc, vitamins etc. I personally recommend pregna care preconception to women trying to conceive. It's found in good pharmacy stores.

5. Some argue the rear entry style (doggy) helps in getting one pregnant faster as it's believed the sperm doesn't need to swim too long before reaching the egg. If you usually find this method uncomfortable do what you enjoy but make sure every drop of sperm is in you before you move an inch.

6. Relax, don't over work yourself physically or mentally, enjoy sex and leave anxiety out of your mission in trying to get pregnant.

7. Use lubricants with utmost care as it could harm healthy sperm.

And finally, involve God in it, only him can make it possible, read these bible verses and be encouraged;

Psalm 113:9 “He gives the barren woman a home, making her the joyous mother of children. Praise the Lord!”

Hebrews 11:11-12 “By faith Abraham, even though he was past age—and Sarah herself was barren—was enabled to become a father because he considered him faithful who had made the promise. And so from this one man, and he as good as dead, came descendants as numerous as the stars in the sky and as countless as the sand on the seashore.”

Psalm 37:5 “Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.”

Psalm 127:3 “Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.”


Psalm 127:3 “Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.”


 Forgive my lengthy post and join faith with women in this condition to have  their sorrow turned to joy.




29 comments:

  1. Hmmmmn. ...women who get pregnant immediately after wedding don't even know how blessed they are....

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    1. You are right, the Lord will do it right.

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  2. meehhhn....i just keep imagining the pains, the insults and all kinda shits infertile women pass through in marriage...although in africa sha.

    i Look Dope With Chris Konor

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    1. It's not funny chris, it's even worse as it's fellow women that take the front row on stigmatising.

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  3. Great post what more can I say.... God is love above all to all women...

    www.lexhansplace.com

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  4. Wow! I love this piece...... Very thoughtful of you to post. It will definitely help someone out there.
    www.debrasmuse.blogspot.com

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  5. Infertility itself does not pose a serious insult as much as the society does to the woman without consideration as to who might likely be at fault.

    I think the society( inlaws and other family members) are mostly the cause of their pains. They don't just want to understand them.

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    1. It's the society actually that compounds the problem. May God give us all wisdom to handle this with care.

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  6. This piece just made me sad because know of a couple close to me looking for a child for more than ten years and yes they are still together. But its not easy. I pray for women looking for the fruit of the womb. May 2016 be fruitful for them. May they hear the cry of a babies in their homes in jesus name. Amen!

    www.ckjacob.com

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  7. hmmmmm i dont pray to go through such cos its really devastating. Even if your husband understands, your mind wont be at rest..Those that get preggy early after marriage dont know the worth.

    Its really an enlightening post

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  8. This has remained one of the many fears of some women who are yet to walk down the isle - Infertility in marriage. May God remember and answer all women who are looking for the fruit of the womb.
    www.alabekee.com

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    1. Absolutely no need to build fear, walk in faith and it will be added unto you.

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  9. Hmmmm I will always say God gives children. Some women don't have any problems neither do their husbands . Some might have married as virgins , everything fine but nothing. While some will have 1000 issues but the doctors will manage those issues and they will take in. They will even tell you what they went through to take in. It's the most excruciating pain for any woman and so many people see these ladies not minding what they ae going through make them their problems. May God answer every woman's prayers IJN so that He alone will take the glory.God help us.
    naijaflo.com

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    1. Amen oo! 2016 is going to be a year of testimonies.

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  10. May God bless the womb of all those looking unto Him. Year 2016 shall be a year of fruitfulness for each and everyone of us(Amen)

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  11. God help us..
    I know the pains my cousin went through, for nine years but at the appointed time, God did it

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    1. Amen! He will do it for the rest too.

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    2. Thank God for your cousin oh...this infertility thing is such a big deal in this part of the world
      Nma's Blog 

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  12. The pain of childlessness cannot be described with words alone. My elder sister and my best friend passed through this ordeal. I witnessed all, no woman deserved to know this agony.

    Doggy style is the fastest way to conceive for women with retroverted uterus but for women with anteverted uterus, missionary style is the fastest way to conceive.

    Today my sister and my friend are happy mothers to beautiful children. God is still on the throne.

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    1. Thanks for this information, never knew of various 'verted' uteruS's.

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  13. It is well oh God will remember every woman dat needs children at d right time

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  14. May God bless those looking for fruit of the womb. Amen

    Thanks for this wonderful post. God bless you!


    http://lifeissueswithtosin.blogspot.com.ng/

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