I remember years ago when I was still in the dating scene and was madly in love with a dude(not my present DH), he was the perfect man so I thought. He was caring, kind to me and just a perfect gentle man.
After few months of dating and we felt we were the perfect match, we began thinking of living as man and wife, already discussing how our wedding was going to be like, kids and so many other beautiful fairy tale thoughts.
My first turn off came up at this point despite him been the love of my life, the proposal; the ring only wasn't only cheap, it was also fake and poorly finished. You know that kind of ring that the metal housing the "supposed diamond stone"(i can swear the one he gave me was a polished plastic) once the metal mistakenly picks a thread on your clothes it gets it's self tangled and pulls out the entire line of rope from the fabric or when you try to brush through your hair with the ring on just forgerrit, the metal will sure pull out some hairs with it.
I was shy of wearing it becouse I wasn't sure of it's colour anymore. It was originally the yellow gold look but it gradually turned in between yellow-silver-copper colours.
We had our first big fight! We called each other names and used lots of curse words. I knew it was over and the first and only thing amongst other gifts from him was the ring I returned quickly. The ring was a major turn off I swear, I kept thinking about the ring during our quarrel which gave me more inspiration on hurtful words I said.
I experienced my second turn off after I quickly moved to the next relationship and ofcos he was another take home to mama kind of man, we got to the stage were both families got know themselves informally and I visited his mom from time to time, I would always take along little gifts to show I was a good daughter-in-law to be but I was never offered anything not even a cup of water not to talk of a glass of juice. It got me a bit worried but I never complained to my boyfriend then, I felt a bit unaccepted despite her excitement when she sees me. She pleaded with me one day saying instead of the material gifts I bring for her I should rather give her the money, she went on to say her son doesn't send her anything and few other complaints but what I picked from the entire discussion was, she wasn't well taken care of by her only son and child.
I was placed on few thousands of naira monthly by this man but he couldn't take care of his mum? They say, to know how well a man will treat in you in marriage is how well his mother is taken care of. He even refused to see his wrong in it, it didn't take me long before I dumped his uncaring ass.
So, what turn off have you experienced or experiencing? I don't mean the usual short dude, bald head or pot belly turn off biko. What actions of his or hers turned you off share with us please.