Monday 30 November 2015

Your worst turn off in a guy.



I remember years ago when I was still in the dating scene and was madly in love with a dude(not my present DH), he was the perfect man so I thought. He was caring, kind to me and just a perfect gentle man.

After few months of dating and we felt we were the perfect match, we began thinking of living as man and wife, already discussing how our wedding was going to be like, kids and so many other beautiful fairy tale thoughts.

My first turn off came up at this point despite him been the love of my life, the proposal; the ring only wasn't only cheap, it was also fake and poorly finished. You know that kind of ring that the metal housing the "supposed diamond stone"(i can swear the one he gave me was a polished plastic) once the metal mistakenly picks a thread on your clothes it gets it's self tangled and pulls out the entire line of rope from the fabric or when you try to brush through your hair with the ring on just forgerrit, the metal will sure pull out some hairs with it.

I was shy of wearing it becouse I wasn't sure of it's colour anymore. It was originally the yellow gold look but it gradually turned in between yellow-silver-copper colours.

We had our first big fight! We called each other names and used lots of curse words. I knew it was over and the first and only thing amongst other gifts from him was the ring I returned quickly. The ring was a major turn off I swear, I kept thinking about the ring during our quarrel which gave me more inspiration on hurtful words I said.

I experienced my second turn off  after I quickly moved to the next relationship and ofcos he was another take home to mama kind of man, we got to the stage were both families got know themselves informally and I visited his mom from time to time, I would always take along little gifts to show I was a good daughter-in-law to be but I was never offered anything not even a cup of water not to talk of a glass of juice. It got me a bit worried but I never complained to my boyfriend then, I felt a bit unaccepted despite her excitement when she sees me. She pleaded with me one day saying instead of the material gifts I bring for her I should rather give her the money, she went on to say her son doesn't send her anything and few other complaints but what I picked from the entire discussion was, she wasn't well taken care of by her only son and child.
I was placed on few thousands of naira monthly by this man but he couldn't take care of his mum? They say, to know how well a man will treat in you in marriage is how well his mother is taken care of. He even refused to see his wrong in it, it didn't take me long before I dumped his uncaring ass.

So, what turn off have you experienced or experiencing? I don't mean the usual short dude, bald head or pot belly turn off biko. What actions of his or hers turned you off share with us please.

23 comments:

  1. As a man what I c in other men when it comes to their women that I find appalling is their lack of chivalry! Dudes be complaining, gossiping, like a bunch of little girls and the audacity of asking a woman to split the check on a date! Uggh SMH! Dudes man the f up! Open the door for ur woman, carry her heavy package, pay for dinner, and don't u dare lay a hand on her!! Gentlemen just don't exist anymore :( I make it my daily existence to never become like most of the men out there, bunch of woosies!
    -Brooklyn Man

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    1. So many Naija dudes are guilty of this, men receive sense after reading what the Brooklyn man has said.

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  2. This is an interesting topic I must say. I broke up with my ex because he dared to question me for coming to his house unannounced and to top it all up,he was quite stingy. The relationship then was 90/10, I was at the giving end while he was at the receiving end. The guy no try at all

    Thank God I dumped his sorry ass and not long after I met DH

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    1. Can you imagine? And he was cool collecting cash from a lady. Good he is past tense in your life now.

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  3. My ex could cheat for Nigeria...I had to run..i can't stand an abusive man or a cheat...
    PS: I'm scared of short guys.lol

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  4. Good you ran for your dear life biko.

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  5. The day my ex said even if he marries he cannot live far from his parents and siblings, another one the first day I visited my ex, the mother was asking me if I had a sugar daddy, like seriously, how can you ask me that kinda question on my first visit.
    Another one he will be using different girls on his DP, if I ask why is he putting it up he will say they are girls like you.rubbish

    But really I didn't have any serious relationship not until I met my hubby

    Bolateethole.blogspot.com

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    1. I despise mommy's boys like mad too..what did the bible say about leaving your parents to live with your wife?

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  6. i just don't like men that are clingy at all.... gives me the impression that he's looking for a second momma and i can't handle that

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  7. hmm...... turn off in guys?
    you know i am a guy so i will write down my turn off in girls...

    girls that are bossy
    girls that ask for everything... like omg i know my responsibilities... i will do what i feel is right for you but know that i am not your father!.....
    girls that cannot cook but want to eat good food... like seriously????


    www.adenegift.com

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    1. I used to think u were a female. Its all good

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    2. He is a dude oo...lmao@ she can't cook but wants to eat good food, before nko?

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  8. U c naija mom thats wat i was referring to dude above complaining smh @jummy Lol cos he obviously acts like one!
    -BM

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  9. My number one turn off in men is cheating. I ran for my dear life the day I found out my ex was cheating on me despite plans on ground for us to seal the relationship. Men can cheat for days......gosh
    www.alabekee.com

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    1. When I hear cheat my mind first drifts to Std's, I can't deal biko.

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  10. Petty, Lies, Nagging, lazy, abusive, ungrateful .... I can tolerate anyother thing but these its a no no for me... Some bad qualities fall under these i wrote down. It's not just one. ThankGod for my husband.
    naijaflo.com

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  11. lies
    making silly mistakes in spelling
    Being told what to do always

    lmao at that your ring....he wanted to make you happy nah

    chincobee.blogspot.com

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    1. Hahahahahah...spelling mistakes can't be overlooked though.

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  12. I can't stand a bad diction but I've not dated anyone so far.
    I think the issues I've had with my ex is communication. I'm a huge believer in communication and stuffs. Imagine I'll ping my bf and it will take him ages to reply but he'll be changing dp or the times I'll call and he won't return it??

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    1. Good you are setting such standard, it's a good one.

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